Have you thought about this....

Read a book titled 'The Difference Maker' by John C. Maxwell, you have probably heard of him as his best-selling books have sold millions (and for good reason)! As I was driving down the freeway, a passage from that book came to mind; "Our feelings come from our thoughts- therefore, we can control our feelings by changing the way we think."

Have you been guilty of saying to your spouse, "You make me so mad!"? I have! According to the statement above, that isn't controlling my feelings.... Emotion is a fickle character. I think there's been an epiphany in my household today; I believe that I have better understanding of what Maxwell was trying to communicate.

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Have you really tried everything else?

In this book Dr. Baucom explains the '4 Myths' about saving a marriage:

1. You need to learn more communication skills

2. There is only "one path" from the brink of divorce to maritial bliss

3. You can't start saving your marriage if your spouse isn't interested

4. Time heals all

Why are these myths and are you really capable of transforming your relationship?

What do you think? We'd love to hear from you!

"You are so lucky!"

Lucky? In reference to our marriage relationship- what does that have to do with 'luck'? This statement to me from a young women who was celebrating her 10th anniversary with her husband (a rocky, unstable relationhsip) caught me by surprise. Her comment came after I expressed my happiness with my spouse...she, obviously unhappy. Why?

Upon further conversation, she revelealed details of mutual infidelity, constant fighting, bitterness, lack of respect and much more. It was if I had opened a floodgate of pent-up, negative emotions within her regarding her spouse and her children. I felt compassion upon her and asked if either of them had considered counseling or taken steps to improve their relationship. Her response, "Neither one of us wants to be the first to back down."

Back down from what, exactly? Being miserable? Feeling trapped in a toxic marriage? What could be worse than what they were currently going through?