The listening problem in your marriage could be related to issues that your spouse has, your method of delivery or more commonly, a combination of both.
People want to know how to make a spouse listen. Bottom line, there's nothing you can do to get your spouse to listen if they don't want to listen. You cannot change anyone but yourself. You cannot force your mate to hear what you are saying or to understand how you are feeling if your partner doesn't want to. Forcing or manipulating someone into counseling doesn't mean that they will truly listen to what a counselor has to say either. What can you do?
Here are some tips on how to be a more effective communicator and listener;
- Don't Interrupt
- Keep an Open Mind
- Make Listening a Priority
- Use the Feed-Back Technique
- Watch for Non-Verbal Signs
- Stay Focused
- Remember Gender Differences
- Show Respect
- Don't Give Advice unless Asked
Poor communication skills can be an inherited family trait. If a person is raised in an environment where people don't listen or can't express their feelings, they will probably bring that inability to communicate into their marriage and other relationships. However, you can change the habit of being a shallow listener.
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